Kindness, Boundaries, and Bad Jokes

Fed up of shitty sexist jokes? I know I am.. Here I talk about some of the stuff we can do as a society to combat this kind of shitty behaviour.

We are in 2025.. how on earth does sexism still exist? It actually baffles me how many men.. sorry, I mean boys - are still getting off on trying to be funny with their shitty comments and god awful ‘jokes’. Mate, no one is laughing apart from you.

You know exactly what kind of boys I’m talking about as well, don’t you? You can automatically imagine their gross face making their gross remarks. The shitty comments will stem from stereotypes - the age old classic ones that honestly need to be forgotten about and left in the past.

Women must always look feminine.

Women that don’t smile all the time are bitches.. have ‘resting bitch face’ - yes we say this about ourselves too, but why? - Why is there nothing equivalent for men?

Women can’t earn more than their partner, it’s emasculating.

The man is praised for looking after their own child.. this one reallllllllly grates on me.

I could name so many more but I don’t want to give sexist stereotypes too much space on my page.

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The crazy thing about gender stereotypes, is that when it is against women and we speak up, set boundaries and say no - we are (majority) of the time told to get over it or god, can’t you take a joke. Have you ever seen a man react when you slightly diss their favourite football team?

Have you ever seen a man react to their football team losing?

Domestic violence occurs.

WHAT THE FUCK.

But sure, we are the emotional gender and can’t control our emotions.

Women must take a shitty offensive joke or we’re ‘too dramatic’.

Men have to get defensive and not allowed to be laughed at otherwise it’s not manly or masculine.

This is how the world has existed for YEARS. When will it end?

I’ll never ever ever understand how there is still so many situations like this. I have this happen in my workplace and so many people just brush things off because it’s easier.

How’s about we start holding each other accountable so it stops happening so then no one has to just ‘get on’ or have to ‘just deal’ with anything at all? It could be so simple, but unfortunately too many people just want to carry on, shy away and let things be. So, if you’re like me and you say something - you become a problem. So, what then happens? We end up blaming the ‘problem’ and shutting them up, instead of dealing with the root cause.

I know this might seem controversial, but I will never ever want to shun someone straight away for making a mistake. Just to clarify: I’m not talking about physical behaviour. I mean bad taste in shitty offensive jokes - I know that from my time growing up how many things were normalised, certain words and phrases were normal in school and unfortunately a lot of people haven’t grown up, moved out of their home town or had anyone correct them so they can learn. So we can’t just cancel someone for something they have grown up with thinking it’s normal. It’s okay to make a mistake… HOWEVER, this is only allowed if there is no malice behind your comment/shit joke.

Saying something and not realising you’ve offended someone is completely different to saying something to try and offend someone.

Everyone is different.

Everyone has their own boundaries.

Everyone is entitled to say how they feel.

Equally, we must all respect others boundaries, feelings and opinions.

Does that mean we have to always agree? No.

But if you offend someone, regardless if you think it was just a joke or not - your behaviour in dealing with this kind of situation will say a lot about who you are as a person.

The most decent top tier behaviour is

“Oh shit.. I didn’t mean that at all. I’m so sorry, I’ll not do that again. Thanks for letting me know’

IT LITERALLY IS THIS FUCKING SIMPLE GUYS.

A lot of people act like someone is attacking their character and basically telling them to become a different person… Ugh, please…

It’s called being a decent human being.

I think communication is so so important and it needs to become normalised behaviour saying how you feel without fear of being judged, ignored or shunned. Come on, we are all so much better than that.

I genuinely believe if we all could stop being so up our own arse then we could live in a much more peaceful world.

You’ve upset someone with a shitty comment that you thought was a joke, instead of letting your ego get in the way because someone didn’t find your ‘joke’ funny - just respect that person’s feelings and apologise. If you think that person is ‘too sensitive’ then don’t hang around with them - it’s one or the other.

You can’t expect someone to just ‘get over it’, like no - you just stop being an insensitive prick.

All in favour, say hi!